MARRIED LIFE → Holiday Exhaustion ←

Thursday, December 29, 2011


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My observation has been that when people get tired and exhausted, they have little reserves left over for tending to relational needs, and they say and do things they wouldn’t ordinarily say or do. Dallas Willard is credited with saying, “Ruthlessly eliminate ‘hurry’ from your life.” Our “more is more” culture today gets us “high” on the fast pace of life, and it has killed more than a few relationships. I think it is one of the biggest love and health killers today, and we have to be very, very intentional about guarding our schedule and being disciplined with our commitments and calendars. You guys know how I love the calender. You have to put yourself and your spouse at the top of your to do list. You have to. Most people are running on empty, near exhaustion. Take naps. Build in get-away time for the two of you. Make it a part of your life. You’ll be amazed how it smooths out the rough patches.

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I can't tell you how much better the holidays are with me with Scott here. He is such a people person and he takes a little of the spotlight off me. He helped in every way I asked him and made the holidays great! My gifts from him were amazing and I am so thankful for him. I was pretty grumpy yesterday because I was so tired. Thats one of the reason's this post is what it is.. because I bet we are not the only couple out there that is just exhausted from the holidays. Scott is who I hold onto through everything..

So for this weeks post I am just giving a few random thoughts on Marriage I found.. There are tons of things that come to mind when it comes to keeping a marriage together. 






  • It helps tremendously if you can laugh at yourself.







  • Women really do enjoy flowers and chocolates.







  • The quality of sex goes up and down.







  • Laughter really does cure a lot.







  • The same result does occur if you keep doing the same thing.







  • Worries can be self-fulfilling prophesies. Let them go.







  • Conflict will happen.







  • Expectations are planned disappointments.







  • Little things are the things you love the most.







  • Don’t just try to fix an issue; work to understand what went wrong.







  • Learning more about anatomy really improves sex.







  • It’s easy to be infected by your spouse’s mood, but you can only change yours.







  • Hold your spouses hand in public and in private.







  • By doing a little bit each day, you can get a lot accomplished.







  • Most decisions don’t require extensive research.







  • The days are long, but the years are short.







  • Happiness doesn’t always make you feel happy.







  • What you do EVERY DAY matters more than what you do ONCE IN A WHILE.







  • You don’t have to be good at everything.







  • What’s fun for other people may not be fun for you–and vice versa.







  • It’s okay to ask for help







  • Maintaining a deep respect for each other will keep you coming to the top, over and over again.







  • The better you get at conflict resolution the better your chances of living out your love on each other







  • Consistency is the key . Consistency is one of the ways to build character–either positive or negative. Acting consistently is difficult, especially when our desires fight against our resolution to act consistently. But I think a key to marriage is to consistently, little by little, work on improving your character by putting your spouse’s interests above your own.






  • Sometime over the next few days plan a bit relaxing time for you and your sweetie. Maybe it's going to a movie. Maybe it's just having a quiet evening at home with your phones turned off. The point is to do something together where you can connect, enjoy, relax, laugh. Give yourselves a little down time after the holidays.

    Have a great Weekend.

    K Jaggers
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