I don't pretend to know everything about marriage. I seek advice from others at times too. I came across this list a few weeks back and I totally agreed with it.. and had to share..
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If you are selfish, get over it.
If you are impatient, develop patience.
If you don't have a sense of humor, get one.
If you are easily irritated, calm down.
If you are filled with anxiety, relax.
If you are too serious, lighten up.
If you are too frivolous, find balance.
If you are demanding, soften your approach.
If you are jealous, develop trust.
If you are are holding a grudge, let it go.
If you are judgmental, find acceptance.
If you are controlling, learn equality.
If you are untrustworthy, develop honesty.
If you are lazy, learn to work.
If you are submissive, learn to assert yourself.
If you are rigid, develop flexibility.
If you are unkind, become loving.
If you harbor resentment, learn to forgive.
If you are arrogant, find humility.
If you are argumentative, learn to listen.
If you are immature, grow up.
If you are impatient, develop patience.
If you don't have a sense of humor, get one.
If you are easily irritated, calm down.
If you are filled with anxiety, relax.
If you are too serious, lighten up.
If you are too frivolous, find balance.
If you are demanding, soften your approach.
If you are jealous, develop trust.
If you are are holding a grudge, let it go.
If you are judgmental, find acceptance.
If you are controlling, learn equality.
If you are untrustworthy, develop honesty.
If you are lazy, learn to work.
If you are submissive, learn to assert yourself.
If you are rigid, develop flexibility.
If you are unkind, become loving.
If you harbor resentment, learn to forgive.
If you are arrogant, find humility.
If you are argumentative, learn to listen.
If you are immature, grow up.
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I think pretty much if you work on yourself, develop your own character and become centered.. it will all fall into place anyway. None of this means you will have a happy marriage every day or forever. But if you keep focused on improving
you have much greater chances over all for your marriage.
Yourself
So this weeks post is going to be about spending time with each other.
While I love alone time, I think everyone knows what a good idea it is to have
" Couple Time "
This is very important to keep your relationship happy and healthy. However, I found a study where new research is telling us to really make our marriages strong, spending time together is not just enough. It went on to say that date nights are great but dinner and a movie does not always have to be the thing you do. In fact there is an correlation between endorphins and attraction as well as bonding. Endorphins come from engaging and stimulating activity such as a museum, out door activities, etc. What this study shows is that if a couple is engaging in different endorphin stimulating activities their bonds grow stronger.
If you are wanting to improve your relationship and strengthen the bonds of your marriage, why not go on some exciting dates together?
Scott and I have had many exciting dates. We are always trying to fit more fun in our marriage. Some days is spent on the golf course, some days we are hiking, sometimes we are swimming.. I mean the list could go on and on. Luckily for me he is who I want to hang out with more than anyone..well besides the kids. Just remember no matter, whats going on in your marriage.. make some time for excitement into your relationship.
OK, we all know there are not truly "perfect" marriages. Marriage is a continual journey and it is not ever smooth, still, there is a way to have a perfect marriage. Here's another secret for you..
Pratice
If you look at couples who have been together for a long time you will see they all make mistakes
But
They get up and keep going. They don't give up. They don't decide to skip some days of marriage.
And after years and years of working together, they become, well, damn near perfect.
Practice makes Perfect
Remember.. marriage is a life long commitment. Its a life filled with joys, challenges, ups & downs, challenges and even plain old mistakes. You are not suppose to give up. Instead they are even more of a reason to practice more. Any person good at anything has PRACTICED. So again how to do you practice to have a good marriage. Well I personally think that means..
Exciting Dates
Talking AFTER a fight about what you could have handled better
Sit down for meals.. together
Keep the kids out of the bed.
Keep the kids out of the bed.
Staying in touch with each others sexual desires
Read books about happy marriages.. you will be amazed at the stuff you will learn!
Create a core of married friends..it does make a huge difference if your friends are married or single.
Take Vacations together
Everything real in your life takes work..
Your marriage is no different!
So for the remainder of this week and all the way till our next Married Life Post together.. I want you to try these 10 steps. Do everything on this list DAILY. And see if your marriage doesn't grow from it!
1. Give a compliment to your spouse.
2. Kiss for at least ten seconds. (All at once or over ten kisses).
3. Express gratitude for something specific.
4. Look into the eyes of your beloved for more than ten seconds.
5. Flirt, really seriously flirt.
6. Remember a fabulous memory you shared together.
7. Rededicate yourself to your marriage and partner.
8. Do something nice for your partner, just to make him or her happy.
9. Be your best self.
10. Say I love you, out loud
Now if you want, I would love a daily email with the things you did off this list. I really want you guys to all try this. Don't just scan over it.. Make it a week long goal and work on it daily. I think its pretty easy to do each thing on the list each day... and I bet your spouse will be feeling your love by next Thursday!
This is what I think we all should focus on..
I think a lot of us focus on day to day and not the how our lives, our marriages are suppose to turn out. Well that picture above is the end goal. To get to full life in with your husband or wife and grow old together. Even if you married late you can still create a long life together. There are so many things to focus on with marriages... but keep growing old together in your thoughts and in your heart. You have a life time to sort out all the details but the biggest detail of all that you have to keep above all is
and always
Its pretty much that simple!
I wish you all a beautiful week together and lots of love!
xoox
K Jaggers
♥
Now if you want, I would love a daily email with the things you did off this list. I really want you guys to all try this. Don't just scan over it.. Make it a week long goal and work on it daily. I think its pretty easy to do each thing on the list each day... and I bet your spouse will be feeling your love by next Thursday!
This is what I think we all should focus on..
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I think a lot of us focus on day to day and not the how our lives, our marriages are suppose to turn out. Well that picture above is the end goal. To get to full life in with your husband or wife and grow old together. Even if you married late you can still create a long life together. There are so many things to focus on with marriages... but keep growing old together in your thoughts and in your heart. You have a life time to sort out all the details but the biggest detail of all that you have to keep above all is
Staying in Love
and always
Its pretty much that simple!
I wish you all a beautiful week together and lots of love!
xoox
K Jaggers
♥
