Hello! Its time for a new Married Life Post!! I am going to be doing another Married Life Post this weekend being tomorrow is husby and my anniversary.. and I want to do a post about our time together over the years too! But today I wanted to talk to you about perfection in marriage. I think its something we all strive for, but little of us actually ever find.
1. The condition, state, or quality of being free or as
free as possible from all flaws or defects.
2. A person or thing perceived as the
embodiment of such a condition, state, or quality.
The reality is
there is no perfect marriage.
Some times moment by moment, day by day, we all have moments that are perfect and moments that are not so perfect. All of us in relationships have ups and downs and if you are expecting a perfect marriage, a perfect life, disappointment is quickly going to show up.
It doesn't mean you don't have a good marriage even if things are up and down. It just means we choose to stay together and just try on improving as much as we can as often as we can.
For a long time my expectations with Scott were so high and at times that did lead me to a few disappointments. There was a time I was comparing our state of marriage with other peoples marriages and that was not helping AT ALL. After many years together, I grew more confident in our relationship and stopped with seeking for absolute perfection. In stopping the perfection hunt, life became much easier.
I am detailed type person. I like things in order and I do consider myself a perfectionist. And thats a flaw not a plus. When always looking for perfection, you don't see all the good that is right there in front of your face. Instead, you see what more could be done, how things could be better, and always thinking.. I wonder.
I am not saying we should all lower our expectations. I am saying we shouldn’t expect perfection. Whether you are having a great day in your relationship or a ok , don’t compare yourself to the perfection you have in your head. .
Let good enough be
good enough for today..
but keep working on making things better.
When it comes to Scott I do think he is the perfect man for me.. even with his faults. He has given me so much meaning to my life and my seek of perfection is over because I found the best
Imperfect perfect husband!
Life is hard enough.. if you keep searching for perfection you are only going to make it harder. Try to smile when things are not going according to your " perfect plan " and realize maybe there is another plan that is just as good!
Don't set yourself up for disappointment with perfection. Being demanding of your spouse in your quest for a perfect marriage doesn't make them feel appreciated. Sometimes good enough is better than not at all. If you want to seek perfection do it with in just
Loving them
despite their short comings. That is what we all should strive for.
K Jaggers
♥
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